by Emma Joanne Published 01/12/2016
Couples often choose to get ready together, walking into the ceremony as one, which in turn takes the pressure off the ‘big reveal’ where all eyes are on the bride and just how she fits into the dress.
Commonly forsaking rings, many gay couples opt for matching tattoos or other items of jewelry that don’t necessarily state ‘I’m taken,’ to the outsider and prove to be more personal. They also don’t seem so hung up on the gender roles of Best Man, Maid of Honour, etc, and often reverse these roles for a fun, alternative effect.
Gay couples have been required to write their own vows since samesex marriage was legalised, as traditional weddings vows are so gender specific, which immediately personalises their commitment to one another. Most poignantly ‘I now pronounce you man and wife’ has been replaced in gay weddings by ‘I now pronounce you partners for life,’ a statement that fits in perfectly with modern times, where the sharing of love and responsibilities, should be at the forefront of any equal partnership.
All of these aspects remove the ideals and expectations in place that reside in traditional heterosexual weddings from how a proposal is executed, right up to the song of choice for the first dance, as they don’t necessarily have the same meaning to gay couples.
Some may say this kills the romance and the whole wedding dream, but it may be better to go into marriage realistically, without all the bells, whistles and flash mobs attached, for it to have a realistic chance of survival beyond the hype and debt accrued in getting there in the first place.
I strongly believe that marriage in its present traditional form is outdated and we can learn a lot from a new modern way of thinking, demonstrated by an altogether new couple, who have finally been invited to host their very own, unique wedding party.
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